Naked and not ashamed

Afraid and Hesitant

Some of us women are apprehensive about who we spend the rest of our lives with.  We are very much aware that the oath of marriage says till death do us part, it should last a lifetime- ordinarily.  We really don’t mind –unconsciously- waiting to get the best pick, but is there really a best pick?

                    

Most part of this lifetime we are already spending as single women.  Time is far spent- no kids yet, no partner, no family of our own.

What drives us really?

Is it the fear of making a mistake in marriage or the fact that we really want to be happy for the rest of our lives-with our husband and father of our children?

We can’t be too careful nor can we be perfect in making our choice.

This (choosing a life partner) is not like baking a cake where you can choose a perfect flavor or color of your choice to make it come out perfect.

Choosing a life partner is more of a task than choosing a career.  It’s a LIFE partner matter we talk about here.  And if almost half of that life is spent as a single woman seeking the perfect man, woman, you had better join the convent.

Sometimes when a woman consciously or unconsciously seeks the perfect man she’s not exactly looking for Mr bling.  She’s looking for the man who won’t disappoint her; the man who won’t treat her like her daddy treated her mummy, who won’t leave her and her kids like her daddy abandoned her and her siblings, who won’t hit her, who won’t allow his family treat her like crap.  She’s not looking for Mr. Perfect but a man who would understand, patient, cooperative; a man who would ‘stay.

She knows probably that mummy wasn’t perfect but mummy stayed.  So will he stay or will he betray her?   This is why you can’t exactly impress her with your ‘material’. 

Her emotional/relationship curriculum vitae say her thought pattern is right since she has experiences right from her primary family to her secondary days.

But her natural eyes cannot exactly see who or what is perfect because of her fear.

Her fear makes her skeptical of every guy that comes her way.  She’s not trusting and too afraid to give them a good chance.

It’s not her- It’s a function of ‘her men and her mind’. They have produced her mentality. 

Naked but not ashamed

Nakedness: sincerity, openness, innocence, freeness…

Now the man and his wife were both naked, but they felt no shame

Genesis 2:25

You’ve probably left your heart in the hands of your ex or some one you really loved.  Now you’ve covered up yourself so that other people who are interested in you can’t see through you.

What I speak about is more like a covering from within, a barricade, a thought that projects as an aura or wall on your outside.

It’s not intentional or conscious as you may not be aware, but the body has been conditioned by your mind and the emotional part of you to be like this.

Dear, you need a sincere and free heart to move on. You need to trust again. Trust God.

Someone who really likes you and wants to get close to you don’t want you covered up, they want you ‘naked’- open and sincere.

The covering won’t let them see who you really are. It won’t let them see the kind and sweet lady you are and you are wondering why the bad girls are getting the good guys? Come on! When you’ve covered up your good sef nko?

You have to unclothe to bathe.

You have to let yourself be known 

You have to be naked and unashamed.

Freshen up- bathe, perfume dress in your nicest clothes and go…