Can you recognize love?

A lot of us claim we want love.  Some take the extra step of looking for it while some just sit around waiting for it to come by.  Some don’t care and have made up their minds to settle with ‘just nice’. 

In short, we want love or at least someone we love and would love us back.  But can some of us really recognize love?

Do we know what love is like?

Do we know what it sounds like and looks like despite the fact that we claim we know what it feels like?

If you don’t know what love is...

The first step is to admit that you don’t really know what love is like and to take a step to finding out instead of waiting for what you cannot recognize in the first place. 

Nevertheless, I can tell you this; Love is not just a feeling! Love is more of a verb.  It is active and faithful.  The best qualification for love is its ‘giving’ nature.  ‘Sacrifice is a proof of love’ they say.

Love may not be what you’ve experienced

 Love may not be what you have experienced in the past with men or during your childhood.  Some of us don’t really know what it’s like to be loved because we have never really had someone to genuinely love and care for us.  This is a factor that affects a lady’s judgement and choice of men.  Hence we claim she has a bad taste. Why won’t she have a bad taste if she hasn’t tasted any of the good stuff?

Look back at your past and do a thorough check and correction.

You should be careful of not letting your past experiences affect your recognition system, judgement and acceptance regarding love.

This is so you don’t push love away when it comes your way. You should not use your wrong past experiences to determine what love should be like.  If you don’t know you should seek for answers. 

Stop criticizing love especially when it comes your way. Stop hating on it.  Give love a chance in your life.  Stop being afraid of accepting ‘normal’ and ‘right’. If it’s kind, gentle, understanding...If it cares, protects, and provides; that’s normal and right.  Don’t turn your back on it.  Appreciate and embrace it.  Don’t frustrate it or strangle the life out of it.  Let it live.  Be open to it.  Do not be afraid. Remember life itself is full of risks.  

Be conscious of your actions and reactions. Take mental notes of unfriendly speech, gestures and actions so you can correct them. 

How to love...

It is a conscious effort.  There are many times it’s not as simple as ABC. That is why it should not be based on ‘feelings’ alone.  To love right, you need some true love in you.  If you don’t know how to, you have to learn. Because giving back is essential and it’s kind of difficult to give back what you don’t have.

Give love

Don’t hoard it.  Don’t say ‘it feels dumb’ to love back.  Don’t think you are being stupid when you do love back. Do not hesitate to give back.  Sacrifice and show love.

If you are the type that is used to giving and not getting

You are a human being. You need love to survive well.  Accept Love.  Let someone love you- too. Let him make sacrifices for you.  Stop playing ‘superwoman’.  Accept being pampered. 

Scared of love?

Whether because of fear of the unknown, heartbreak, helplessness, or losing one’s self - there is still no valid reason why you should keep being afraid for so long.  You have to deal with it sooner or later.

In true love, fear should not be found.   How long will you run from what you know you need to survive?   Yes it can seem too good to be true, so test it.  And if it is true, embrace it.

You might be wondering, ‘can it really be for real’?  Do ask questions but don’t ponder for so o o long. Did I mention that e fit waka comot when him don wait tire? 

So stop killing Love

Be true to your heart.  Stop trying to suppress or kill love. Stop the habit now. You deserve to be happy. Cute, understanding, committed, accepting, kind, and ‘i go die there’ ....can happen to you. And when it does, don’t get your ‘this is too good for me’ knife to stab it. Instead think ‘why not?’ and try to enjoy the ride.

Embrace God’s Love

God’s love for us is the most perfect and is a true model for us on how to love.  He’s the one who loved us first and he does not hesitate showing and proving to us how much he does love us. The bible says he is so mindful of us, that the hairs on our heads are numbered.  Jesus is the most precious gift of love from God to us.

God is the author of love-the ultimate lover. A healthy relationship with him will help us and teach us how to love unconditionally.