How to treat men: 2 wrong popular notions women have about men that men don’t like

HE IS NOT A CATCH (Finance)  

He doesn’t want to be treated like an object; he wants to be seen as a human being.

He is not your daddy. When you are both married, you can ask him to be daddy too.     Seriously he doesn’t want you to make it look so compulsory that he has to carry ALL your responsibilities. Let him make the choice. Or better still let him carry whatever amount of responsibility he can.

Here’s something from BARBARA De ANGELIS’ (Ph.D) book ‘SECRETS ABOUT MEN EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW’

Women Who Care Only About a Man’s Financial Status

MEN HATE FEELING USED OR EVALUATED FOR THE AMOUNT OF MONEY THEY HAVE

The only feeling I can compare it to is to how enraged women get when men use or evaluate us for how big our breasts are, or how perfect our bodies are.

WHY THIS TURNS MEN OFF

Men already walk around feeling pressured to perform. When a woman judges a man purely on his ability to receive financial rewards, he feels totally unappreciated for who he is inside. This lack of emotional safety with a woman is a definite turn- off.

WHY WOMEN DO THIS

 Women look at men as “walking bank statements” when:

§  They look at a man as a “catch” rather than as a human being

§  They feel they cannot take care of themselves, and must depend on a man to take care of them

§  They define themselves based on what other people think of the man they “got”, rather than on who they are as people.

THE SOLUTION

IF YOU WANT MEN TO LOVE YOU FOR WHAT’S INSIDE YOU AND NOT JUST WHAT THEY SEE ON THE OUTSIDE, YOU MUST BE WILLING TO DO THE SAME FOR THEM

In other words, stop evaluating men by their level of success and take a look at the kind of human being they are. There are millions of wonderful, loving, single men who are being overlooked by women because they don’t own a fancy car or have a prestigious job or wear flashy clothes. What they have to offer you is much more valuable- sensitivity, fidelity, friendship and real love.

HE IS NOT A SEX OBJECT (Sex)

Men know when you are trying to use your body to get their attention. A lot of men respond to this but they don’t respect a woman like that.

It is actually a sexual turn off for men when you try to manipulate them sexually.   You won’t be taken seriously. Your body is not a sexual bait and you are not a fish that you want him to catch.

Some young girl you know might have been lucky doing this but if you are an unmarried older lady, you might want to reevaluate.  Please leave this stunt for the very young girls.

Men are not stupid. They know when a woman is manipulating them with her sexuality.

In a report, most men revealed that this kind of behavior often turned them on sexually but turned them off emotionally.

More from BARBARA’s book:

Men know that women are aware of men’s sexual vulnerability and how easy it is for them to become physically aroused. Therefore, they resent it when you use this against them, and they end up resenting their own body for responding without their consent. They feel controlled and overpowered, and this turns them off.

WHY WOMEN DO THIS

We use our sexuality to manipulate men because we feel powerless. For a long time in our society, sex was the only power women had over men. We had no political power, no economic power, and learned to use sex to get what we wanted. We used it to attract a man, to steal him away from another woman, to get him to take care of us, and hopefully, to keep him around.  It makes me so sad to see women still behaving as if their only option to feel powerful is to use their sexuality.

The problem with this kind of manipulative behavior is that it works - it works so well that women become trapped in a role they can’t escape from. Men don’t respect you, and you don’t respect yourself.

THE SOLUTION

IF YOU DON’T WANT TO BE TREATED LIKE A SEX OBJECT, DON’T ACT LIKE ONE, AND DON’T TREAT MEN LIKE ONE

Take an honest look at your behavior around men. Ask yourself if you are hiding the real you behind your sexuality. Try just acting like a person and not a ‘woman’. You may not know what that means until you practice it for a while.

Extracts from the book ‘SECRETS ABOUT MEN EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW’ BARBARA De ANGELIS’ (Ph.D).