It has become a common saying that a lady’s character
is more cherished than external beauty. This is true. But it isn’t only beauty
that girls seek. Money, power, and fame have become a quest that peer pressure
seems to have been able to have a strong hold on us quite easily. The media
doesn’t help matters at all. Celebrities give a make believe life of how life
is glamorous and full of luxury and all so much so that the goal in life has
become to attain to materialistic wealth without much emphasis on character.
Why is there so much desire to reach a certain level of fame and glamour even
if we have to sacrifice our peace and joy?
The fashion world isn’t helping matters. Ladies around the world spend
millions or thousands, or even hundreds to look a certain way dictated by so
called fashion icons. We think that to be recognized, we have to be like “THEM
GIRLS’. But ask yourself, are you really happy within?
Contentment is a major ingredient for personal joy and
peace. No word can describe the feeling when a girl is happy with whom she is,
not wanting to compare herself with others.
Many people lose the small joys in the hope for big happiness [Pearl S.
Buck]. It isn’t what you have (possessions) or who you are (status) or where
you are (environment), or what you are doing (occupation) that makes you happy
or unhappy. It is what you think about it [Dale Carnegie]. It is safe to say
that nothing can tune your state of mind except you. As a man thinks in his or
her heart so is he or she [Proverbs 10:22]. If you think you are ugly it is
true. If you think you are beautiful it is also true. It’s a great recipe for
injury if you compare yourself with others. Complaining about what we don’t
have will not change our current situation. Oprah Winfery, one of the richest
and most influential women in the world quoted, ‘be thankful for what you have,
you will end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you
will never, ever have enough.” The greatest part of our happiness or misery
depends on our dispositions, and not our circumstances [Martha Washington]. You
are where you are and who you are for a special reason. Don’t get lost in the
crowd searching for your happiness outside God’s will for your life. Treat
yourself like the queen you are. Brazilian, Peruvian, or Mexican weaves, flashy
cars, prestigious boyfriends and other dainty stuff can’t feel the void in your
heart. Once you believe in yourself and do not try to convince others or try to
get another’s approval, the whole world would accept who you are, slim or plus
size; tall or short; fair or ebony; boyfriend or none.
Let contentment be your style. Be happy with what you
have, rejoice in the way things are. A song writer wrote,” this little light of
mine, I’m gonna make it shine.” Do not
despise your little beginnings. Just be ready to rock when life sets the stage
before you to dazzle your world. Avoid getting carried away by things with
little or no eternal value in them. There is great gain in contentment [1Timothy
6:6). Keep your life from the love of money and be content with what you have
[Hebrews 13:5]. God created the whole world out of nothing. Trust him; he has
promised to take care of you. When you realize there is nothing lacking, the
whole world belongs to you (Lao Tzu). Just tell yourself, “I am really very
fortunate to be me.”
I am an upcoming Human Resource
Professional with almost 2years experience, currently an Hr and Admin Officer
at Aero Surveys Limited, Starbow, Ghana. Studied Human Resource Management in
Valley View University in 2008. My interests spans from coaching, training,
motivating and mentoring. Formerly an assistant GirlTalk Leader at Rock
Foundation Unilag in 2004, and Head of ladies fellowship ‘The Solid Rock’ in
2001. Single and Lives with Family in
Ghana
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