You Love Him Nuts, He Loves You Not

You love him – like crazy.

And he does not seem to love you, talk less of losing his mind over you too.

It’s hard to accept.  It’s painful.

Babe, this piece is more about making sure you are ok after this whole ‘crazy love’ thing other than getting him to ‘love you like crazy’ too.

The best thing you can do in this kind of situation is to let this guy be- at peace.

When you are ‘crazy in love’ you could probably act like you are actually crazy, especially if you are the expressive type. You will think crazy, talk crazy and act crazy.  And this is the part when the love of your life finds a way of escape- from you, his former sane friend.  This will definitely happen if he doesn’t feel/see you that way.

What do you do then?

I will start with what don’t you do.

Don’t let your mind be messed up - with those crazy assumptions and suggestions. Don’t swallow them. Walk with what you see and hear.

Don’t let your emotions be messed up. Don’t lose that grip of yourself. Also, don’t let the devil take advantage of the situation.  This is because in this kind of situation, you could be vulnerable. So, you will be open to ‘crazy’ thoughts and ideas. You will be open to any thought that would seem to help your situation.

Therefore, don’t dare be an emotional wreck, pleaseeee ma’am.

Don’t ruin your image. Abeg. Keep your sane, pretty, self intact. Don’t make him see you as that babe ‘to run from’.  Just leave him with the memory of ‘a sweet lady who liked me’. That’s enough.

And here’s what you should stop doing:

Stop stalking. I have stalked before too. But there should be a limit.

Don’t make stalking him become a habit. It is a bad habit, plus he would notice. Who wants to be followed around like that- whether virtually or physically? Really.

Stop acting all weird and crazy – if you are already. If you have given him some hints, Babe, that’s ok. He’s not a zombie. He knows. He saw it. He got the message. If he doesn’t react, he probably doesn’t want. Maybe because he has a girlfriend or he is in love with someone else or he doesn’t feel you that much but just wants you as a friend. It could also be that he’s not ready for a serious relationship at the moment especially financially, he’s not made Dangote type of money. Or probably, his career is his current girlfriend and he can’t break up with ‘her’ for you. Etc etc

Stop making this ‘love’ let you lose yourself.

Don’t lose your identity and sanity because of some ‘love’ you want to be noticed and reciprocated.  Something is definitely not right, when this begins to happen.

And a last ‘Don’t’…

Don’t allow yourself be taken advantage of. Like I said, you would be vulnerable at this point and the ‘love of your life’ will notice that you are. He could take advantage. And by time he’s done with his shenanigans and you realize he was just fooling around with you, playing with your precious emotions, it then turns out to be a gruesome ‘heart break’ story.   Don’t let yourself be in that state where you are so unable to think, and stand strong. If you do, you could regret it later. Your crazy love for this guy might turn crazy hate.

Period.

I told you this piece would be more about your wellbeing than how to get him to like you back. I just believe that if with all the signals you’ve sent, there is no reception or response, then don’t waste your precious emotions, time and energy on this guy. There is no network here; therefore here will not be a connection.  The connection you so badly want but he doesn’t ‘want’.

Make yourself unreachable, not available for insanity.  If you can be on the line, be a friend- the sweet dependable friend that you are. Who knows, the subscriber that you dialed may be available later.

Believe me, I’ve been there.