The Ordinary Guy That Does Extraordinary Things

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What’s wrong with the simple guy with a simple dream?

I mean a guy with a dream that can be actualized. He summarizes to us in one sentence what he is about and where he is going. No stories. No unnecessary grammar. No drama.

There is no iota of complication about him or what he wants with us. He likes us and does not hesitate to tell and show it.

Yet we look at him as cheap and boring.

We do not even see the fact that at least he knows what he wants, where he is going and what he is doing.  We do not see the fact that he brings ‘good tidings’ and ‘good loving’ -to us.

The ordinary guy is the guy we ladies keep in the friend zone while we chase the extraordinary looking guy, who if we ever catch up with, will only offer us the ordinary.  Mr Extraordinary is neither ready to go the extra mile for/with you nor will he be willing to do the unusual with you to make things work.

Mr O is the guy you look at and there is no ‘knot’ in your tummy but there is peace in your heart.  No puzzles in your head except clarity.  You love him yet your head is correct. You are attracted to him, yet you are sane. You both agree on faith and values.

What are we looking for?

What do we want?

We are so used to ‘complicated’, ‘out of this world’, ‘out of reach’ and hoping that one day “he will be mine and I will be his”.

We keep looking to Mars for an ‘alien knight in a shinning armor’ while we ignore the familiar super dude in tees and jeans and have better records with us than so called Mr E.

The Ordinary guy is ready to do the work or share the work so as to make you both work. With the Extraordinary guy, you are doing the work- alone. And the shocking part is that he doesn’t feel he needs to contribute. He is used to ladies serve him their self respect on a platter of gold and sacrifice their emotions to his altar of nonchalance.

If you chose to go with the dreamer, please do not make the simple guy feel stupid or cheap or like he is too good a guy and there is something wrong with that.

There is nothing wrong with a guy who says and shows how much he cares.

There is nothing wrong with a guy who is intelligent and puts his ‘hands’ to work- whatever kind of legal and godly work he does. There is dignity in LABOR.

Jesus came as an ordinary man but his purpose was clear- To draw men to God. And he did extraordinary things all through his life time on earth. He was a man of results.

Ain’t we tired of painting that unrealistic image of how the man we want should act and be like? Or of what society has passed on to us of what a prospective husband should look and be like? I’m tearing up my canvass and pouring away the ink, so I embrace the reality that’s before me.

I’ll pay attention to the ordinary guy who genuinely cares about me and shows it. He is interested in my well being, career, yet appreciates that little I’ve given. Whereas Mr Extraordinary still thinks the world revolves around him.

Mr E thinks love is a game of hide and seek, despite his old age o.  He thinks love is only about ‘feelings’ only. He doesn’t care about sacrifice, commitment, loyalty, honesty and reality.

He thinks manipulation is the best way to tame you and keep you. He thinks bottling his emotions is masculine and cool. He is more about his suit, what the world thinks of him, and his crazy unrealistic dreams that you probably will never understand even though you were willing to stand by him.

Mr E is probably still looking for that 'perfect' chic to make his wifey, so he’s probably just whiling away his time with you. And here you are thinking you've found your Mr perfect.

You know, he really doesn’t care what’s within the woman. He cares less about who she is but more about who’s with him.  It’s all about him. The world should stand still for him, including you babes. That’s why he appears extraordinary, cos he pays too much attention to himself and he can do just the ordinary cos he doesn’t know how to make sheesh happen!

On the other hand, Mr O, in whom you should be well pleased, has always been around with his ordinary self and churning extraordinary results. He makes less noise but brings it home.

So, what is it going to be?