Dream Man

So you see him in your dreams? You’ve probably seen him too many times and it makes you believe there is more to this. Or you saw him in a wedding suit and you in a very pretty wedding gown. I’m not writing this to discredit the dream you had but to make sure you are fine and that you don’t make any ‘unwise’ move that you might regret later.

If na dream, no be today o ... *Smiles*

First of all:

What are dreams?

A ‘dream’ is one way messages are communicated to us via our spirits. In the bible, God communicated to people through dreams (Genesis 15: 12-16; Genesis 28:12-16). We are also aware that Satan also try to plant his evil seed while a man sleeps, that can also be termed as a dream (Matthew 13:25).  Hence, there are bad dreams and there are good dreams.

Sometimes dreams are instructional and sometimes they simply reveal what will take place in the nearest future or what is happening in the realm of the spirit.  

Daniel 2:4b. Genesis 40:8-23. Genesis 41 *8 and 32

And sometimes, like they say, a dream you’ve had is probably an aftermath of what happened the day or night before. Or simply a product of your recent emotional roller coaster.

Why am I dreaming about him?

As we know, we women are emotional beings. For some of us, when we do like a man, we get to pray for him more than we pray for our self.  I think it is normal that things about that person are being revealed to you. This could also happen especially when you are really close to that person and seem to know him quite well.  Nevertheless, this does not permit us to manipulate the person. We should not begin to feel like some spiritual mama, always giving him the ‘I know what you did’ last night look. What we should do is to pay attention to the message in the dream.

And then there are some who God has given the grace and the gift to see or to dream consistently about occurrences.  

I know that it is not absurd if you begin to dream about the man you are involved with or someone you really do like.  

Also, I’d like to mention that it is not unusual for a Christian woman who has a good relationship with the Holy Spirit to dream consistently about the man she is involved with or a guy she has an eye for. Like I mentioned earlier, the key thing is ‘what did you see?’

What to do with these dreams

First you need to remember and analyze (Its better if you do it spiritually) what the dream was about.

You don’t need to run to the guy and tell him about a dream you’ve had, narrating to him about how you saw both of you together in a love garden. You might freak him out.  You could if you are in a serious relationship with the guy, even at that, you need to brood well on the matter before you tell him.

Secondly, you don’t need to begin to (all of a sudden) build your life around a dream you’ve just had. It’s a dream. It shouldn’t now be the foundation of your life.  

Thirdly, if these dreams keep coming back I think you should get counselling. Share it with a Christian. You can talk to a friend of yours (and spirit filled) or with your pastor. That’s what I did.

There are different kinds of dreams and dreams come from different sources. We need to be careful and not let a dream we’ve just had control us, especially when it comes to matters of the heart.  Dreams should be dealt with immediately.   Deal with it in your heart and in your spirit. It is pointless to keep ruminating on a dream without addressing it head on.   

As a Christian, the word is the foundation of your life. Everything you hear, see or perceive that has to do with you, before you accept it, should be consistent with the word of God to you. God’s thought towards you and others are good and not bad. Before you begin to accept and ponder on a dream, find out what the word says about what you saw.

Sometimes some dreams, even though it involves a man, are to help us make changes in our own lives. That’s why I say we should always pray about them and ask God to show you and make whatever relevant message in your dream clear to you.

I’d like to use myself as an example. I used to have these dreams of myself and these dreams would have this man in it. The man was not even a friend. He was someone whom we just say ‘hi’ from a distance but I really really liked him.  These dreams kept coming back and they all had this consistent message which I didn’t understand. I shoved them aside initially but the message was too obvious to be ignored.  I got really concerned at one point. They were not bad dreams though.  

Then I prayed about these dreams since they won’t stop. I asked God, by his spirit, to help me understand what they meant.  I also spoke to a spiritual authority about it.

I never told the man about the dream.

Anyways, to cut the story short, I realized that the dreams carry a consistent message that revealed something that had found roots in my being and which I wouldn’t have discovered ordinarily.  It was something that had to do with my attitude towards love and relationships.  I also discovered this thing which made me like that, was an aftermath of a relationship I had. That was the state of my heart and it was pulling me back. I was shocked that I had all that in me.  

I was grateful to God about the dreams and what I had discovered. I prayed about the issue and the Holy Spirit has helped me take practical steps to be whole in this area of my life. As per the guy, I really don’t know. All I know is that the dreams opened my eyes to a certain hidden issue I had in my life and it has been addressed and attended to by the spirit of God.  

In conclusion, here’s the word that the Lord gave me when I used to worry a lot about dreams I have had with a guy (this guy especially) involved in it.

The Lord who appeared to Virgin Mary and told her she was going to have a baby by the Spirit and that he is to be named Jesus, will also appear to Joseph to fill him in about what was happening. He would tell him to cooperate with Mary and support her.  Luke 1: 26-38; Matthew 1:20-21.

God is not an author of confusion. If you are very convinced in your heart that, that ‘dream man’ (that guy you see in your dream) is your husband, then I think it’s better you keep it to yourself and continue to talk to God about it.  Especially if you are not close friends or in any kind of relationship with this man.  If he comes through, you probably can mention it to him but still be careful.